We all have different expectations and beliefs when it comes to what love is and what it encompasses. That being said, there’s a difference between love and true love. The definition of love is an intense feeling of deep affection. While I believe the base concept of love is apart of true love, true love is something more. True love isn’t inherently romantic or sexual in nature, you can experience true love with family or friends too. However true love has to be a mutual experience. That’s one of the the key things that separates true love from the basic concept of love. You can experience love with anything. A person might love money, or their dog, or food. But that’s not what I think of as true love.
At the base level of true love is mutual understanding, and acceptance of a person. Regardless of the form, these are two essential characteristics of true love. You have to really know someone, the good and the bad in order to experience true love. You have to be able to accept someone’s shortcomings and love them anyway. This has to be a mutual thing, it can’t be too one sided. Really I think about true love the way that some people think about soulmates. The difference is that with true love, it’s something that can be worked toward with someone. You’re not just born to love one person or a set of people. Along with that understanding and acceptance, in order to experience true love, you each need to exhibit the traits that the other loves and respects. Naturally, these traits vary depending on the person.
A lot of people believe in the concept of opposites attracting, but I don’t think that’s necessarily true. Who people surround themselves with is a reflection of who they are in some ways. The people we choose to love exhibit traits that we respect and admire. For example, if you’re a quiet, introverted person, that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to end up loving an extroverted person. If you’re a quiet person that respects and admires people who have no trouble voicing their opinion, then that’s when you’d be more open to surrounding yourself and experiencing true love with an extroverted person. To experience true love, it’s not necessary to have traits that oppose the other person’s, but it is important to have traits that align with each others perception of ideal traits.
There are other concepts that are linked to true love, but they’re not necessary to true love in the same way the concepts I mentioned earlier are. One of these concepts is trust, and another one is loyalty. These things are necessary for a good relationship, but not the base components of true love. Experiencing true love causes you to trust and be loyal to the other person. It’s kind of like when you break your arm, and feel pain. The pain is a byproduct of the break, but not the cause. That’s how I look at trust and loyalty relative to the concept of true love.
The concept of true love is something that is vital to a good long lasting relationship. In a way, the point of relationships (friendships included) should be to experience true love. I feel like a lot of the time, people don’t try to get to know someone on a deeper level, which leads to less fulfilling, superficial relationships. Having relationships with more substance should be the goal, which I think will lead to more overall fulfillment.
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